Oftentimes, fear leads to failures and unfulfilled dreams. This is especially true in the business world where many would-be entrepreneurs are scared of starting their first business ventures for fear of failure and humiliation.
In other spheres of life, many people avoid getting into relationships for fear of being hurt and rejected. There are even those who end up failing important examinations out of fear.
The end result of fear is missed opportunities, unfulfilled potential and a life full of regrets. The query then is; how can you overcome your fears?
This article highlights the causes and symptoms of fear. It ultimately enumerates some practical steps you can adopt to overcome your fears, for good. Read on.
The layman’s definition of fear:
Fear is a deep-seated feeling which evokes unpleasant emotions of horror and panic. Fear manifests in form of threats, either real or imaginary, pain and consternation. If not tamed, fear can develop into a more complex syndrome. Let’s look at some of the telltale signs of fear.
Having a comfort zone
Do you feel contented with the current state of affairs? Are you content with your less-than-juicy relationship, job status and your surroundings in general? If you have, this is indicative of fear running your affairs.
People who act of fear find it hard to express their true views in areas where decisions are vital. If you often have to give answers that are contrary to your beliefs, then there is a great chance that you’ve let fear reign in your life.
Turning to alcohol, sex, drugs and television to numb your feelings.
Fear makes the soul sick. The pain manifests itself in form of vexation, hopelessness, and fatigue. Quite often, fear-riddled souls will turn to addictive behaviors such as drugs, television, and sex so as to numb the pain.
Being reserved and less sociable
A common trait for those living under fear is that they hardly express their opinions for fear of retribution and imagined threats. They better suffer in silence than face imaginary consequences of airing their opinions.
Top 5 common factors that trigger fear.
People who might have suffered unnerving ordeals in the past are likely to struggle with increased anxiety whenever they face situations/ environments that are similar to what caused them pain or agony in the past.
For instance, an individual who had a difficult family life in toddler years may grow anxious of getting married for fear of similar occurrences in their own life.
If you were to resign from your current job or relocate to new or unfamiliar surroundings, would you feel anxious? An individual whose employment terms are coming to an end is likely to feel worried and downbeat as they face an uncertain future.
A student relocating to a completely new country for their studies may feel anxious over the own surroundings.
Those who have low self-perception are always afraid to act as they fear that the challenges at hand might end up exposing their inadequacies. They often feel that those close to them will abandon or humiliate them once they confirm their shortcomings.
Confronting a challenge for the very first time
Suppose you are to address a public gathering for the very first time, would you feel excited or anxious? For many people, confronting a challenge for the first time elicits feelings of fear and numbness.
Too much pressure to perform
If you exert yourself too much to succeed, you are setting yourself up for certain failure. By not a leaving a room for failure will evoke fear in your mind and this can cloud your rational thinking and acting.
Practical steps to overcome your fears.
While you can’t control the occurrence of fear and anxiety in your life, you can adopt measures to overcome the limitations and live to your full potential.
Take time to meditate
A University of California study established that mindfulness meditation helped minimize ruminative thinking and existing dysfunctional beliefs.
Meditate often, think deeply about your fears and you will surely overcome them.
Focus more on your strengths
The difference between those who have a strong mentality and those who suffer numbing anxieties is that the former leverage more on their strengths rather than magnifying their weaknesses.
Remember, Abraham Lincoln’s father was a cobbler and this didn’t prevent Abraham from ascending to the highest office of the land. He actually prided in his father’s meticulous job even as a cobbler.
Befriend people who will help you overcome your fears
Remember the adage of birds of a feather? If you want to defeat your fears, then it’s important that you find people who will help you overcome your anxieties.
People who are fearful are likely to hang out with those in the same boat as they are in. That can drive them deeper into their fears and anxiety. Surround yourself with people who make you feel important and empowered or simply anyone who believes in your capabilities.
Don’t settle for less
While you don’t need to push yourself beyond your limits, you should also not conform to what life throws at you.
Learn to make lemonade out of lemons thrown down your path rather than feeling downbeat and unlucky. Don’t settle for less when there is room to hit the sky.
Develop an optimistic attitude in life
Life is never a bed of lovely roses. Having a positive attitude is the key to overcoming the many challenges you will face in the path of life. Richard Branson could never have achieved such a magnificent lifestyle had he despaired from all the shortcomings in his life.
Take failure as part of a long and productive learning process
Those who succeed to overcome their fears take missteps in their life as the building blocks to a life free of worries. By adopting a learning attitude to your fears, you will be fired up to confront whatever worries you and make gains from the situation.
Failure is the single biggest hindrance to living your potential. It clouds your mind and often leads you down the wrong path. The good thing is you can overcome your fears. Simply trust in your strengths, overlook your flaws and connect with those who can help you fight your deep-seated worries. You can if you decisively deal with the effects of anxiety.
More importantly don’t ever let the fear of failure hinder you from attaining success. It okay to fail. You will fail many times in life. Anyone you know that is successful today has had their own share of failure. They just refused to give in.
Go out and prosper. You were destined for greatness!!
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